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America's Top Couples Therapist Says All Successful Marriages Share This Trait
If you want to have a long-lasting, intimate partnership, you and your boo need to be able to "repair" after conflicts that inevitably come up. "In every good relationship," says psychologist John Gottman, couples have "repairing skills, and they repair early."
"The thing that all really good marriages and love relationships have in common is that they communicate to their partner a model that when you're upset, I listen," he says. "The world stops, and I listen. And we repair things. We don't let things go. We don't leave one another in pain. We talk about it, and we repair."
In this way, the most effective repairs rely on making emotional connections rather than scoring intellectual victories. An effective repair doesn't come from analyzing a problem and being right about it, Gottman says. Instead of turning it into a debate and telling them that they're wrong, you report how you feel.
Gottman says a successful repair might be: "When you walked out of the room, that really hurt my feelings, because I felt like what I was saying was unimportant to you. And I really need you to stay in the room when we talk about an issue."
Available at <http://www.businessinsider.com/successful-marriages-share-this-trait-2015-1>. Accessed in: April, 2017
According to the therapist Gottman, what makes a long-lasting relationship?
a) Talk as if nothing had happened and avoid fights and conversations